The societal belief is that children and parents should accept each other for who they are “no matter what”, should forgive each other “no matter what”, and should learn to get along “no matter what.” For some children this is impossible because they find themselves mistreated, disrespected, and continually triggered.
The thinking is rooted in it not “being natural” for parents and children to be disengaged. It counters the standard belief that the parent-child relationship “should be” connected, committed, and based on enduring unconditional love. According to Hallmark cards, it is doubtful that any other parent-child relationship exists. Read more via Psych Central.